Anger is a normal healthy emotion, neither good nor bad, although in today’s society anger often appears to be negative because of the unhealthy ways it is expressed. When anger takes centre stage, the danger is that people could lose the full spectrum of their emotions like the ability to express sadness, fear and love.
Next Anger Management intensive on the 2nd February 2019 - more info on the workshop page
Ways of expressing anger
Moodiness, Depression, Physical ailments
Confrontation, Constant Criticisms
Put downs, Bullying, Sarcasm
Irritability, Patronising, Frustration
Ignoring others, Violence
Self-harm in various ways
Anger is your defence system
Anger awareness is connected to emotional fitness. Anger is your unique defence system which can sometimes work by attacking others (aggression/ fight) or by attacking self (passive/ flight) or by attacking others covertly (passive-aggressive/ freeze) One of the core questions to ask ourselves is, 'What are we defending ourselves against?' Perhaps against feeling small and against shame, feeling invisible, feeling hurt, feeling rejected love, loss, ugly and empty.(Nick Luxmoore) Often people get angry because they are feeling powerless, small and out of control. We may have been patronised, embarrassed, humiliated, shamed or feel sad or scared. The above feelings are vulnerable feelings which often make us feel small, our defence responds through becoming bigger which often involves ANGER. However the primary feeling may actually be sadness, fear or shame.
What is rage?
Many people are unable to express their feelings or their anger at the right time and in the appropriate way. If the anger is not expressed then often it is suppressed and contained in the body. (This anger could have been suppressed for years, and never dealt with) Rage is old unexpressed anger stored up and when one is feeling stressed or out of control the rage bursts out like a volcanic eruption. Often the rage appears indiscriminately with little provocation, much like road rage.
Is your anger out of control?
Do you shout and have angry outbursts?
Do you often struggle to contain your anger?
Do you regularly feel irritable, moody and frustrated?
Do you harm yourself physically?
Do you harm yourself with verbal putdowns?
If you can answer yes to one of the above questions then you may be expressing your anger in an unhealthy way.
How Synergy Services can help you?
Discover the roots of your anger/ rage
Increase communication skills
Learn healthy ways of expressing your anger
Build emotional fitness and develop a full expression of feelings
Learn to take responsibility for our emotions and behaviour
Synergy can provide tailored anger programmes to suit your needs including an anger assessment and a package of sessions.
Individual session - £60-£70
Anger package 1 - 5 sessions paid in advance £275-£325